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'Domestic abuse, also called "domestic violence" or "intimate partner violence", can be defined as a pattern of behaviour in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner'– United Nations.

This is a serious form of abuse that can occur in various types of relationships. Recognising the signs is crucial to help those who may be experiencing it. Let's break down some common indicators of domestic abuse. Signs can vary, and not everyone will show the same symptoms.

PHYSICAL ABUSE - Look for unexplained bruises, injuries, or marks on someone's body. These might not result from accidents but from being hurt by someone else.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE—This can include constant criticism, insults, or making someone feel bad about themselves. If a person is isolated from friends and family or controlled in their actions and interactions, it might be a sign of abuse.

SEXUAL ABUSE - This involves non-consensual actions, such as forcing someone to do something they don't want to do or making them feel inadequate about their choices. No one should feel pressured or unsafe in a relationship.

FINANCIAL ABUSE - Controlling money can be abusive. This includes preventing access to cash, sabotaging someone's job, or withholding financial information.

VERBAL ABUSE - Words can hurt. Constant criticism, yelling, or making someone feel small with words may indicate an unhealthy relationship.

ONLINE ABUSE - In today's digital age, abuse can occur online. This includes monitoring or controlling someone's internet use, sending mean messages, or using technology to track them.

MANIPULATIVE TACTICS - Abusers may use tricky methods to control someone, such as making them doubt their thoughts or feelings, manipulating their emotions, or making them feel dependent on the abuser.

ISOLATION - Abusers might try to keep their victims away from friends and family. Preventing someone from spending time with loved ones is a red flag.

BEHAVIOUR CHANGES - If someone you know becomes anxious, sad, or withdrawn and hesitates to discuss their relationship, paying attention is essential. People in abusive situations may need help but be afraid to ask for it.

How does domestic violence affect children?

Domestic violence can have profound and long-lasting effects on children, impacting their emotional, psychological, and physical well-being.

Here are some ways domestic violence affects children:

Emotional and Psychological Impact

ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION - Children exposed to domestic violence often experience anxiety, fear, and depression. They may constantly worry about their safety and the safety of their abused parent.

TRAUMA AND PTSD - Witnessing or experiencing violence can lead to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), with symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares, and severe anxiety.

LOW SELF-ESTEEM - Constant exposure to violence can damage a child's self-esteem, making them feel unworthy or unloved.

GUILT AND SHAME - Children may blame themselves for the abuse, feeling guilt and shame for not being able to stop it or believing they caused it.

Behavioural Effects

AGGRESSION AND VIOLENCE - Some children might imitate the abusive behaviour they witness, becoming aggressive or violent towards others.

WITHDRAWAL AND ISOLATION - Conversely, some children may withdraw from social interactions, becoming isolated and finding it difficult to trust others.

ACADEMIC PROBLEMS - The stress and anxiety from domestic violence can affect a child's ability to concentrate, leading to poor academic performance.

SUBSTANCE ABUSE - In an attempt to cope with their feelings, some children may turn to drugs or alcohol.

Physical Health

INJURIES - Children can be directly harmed during violent episodes, resulting in physical injuries.

SLEEP DISTURBANCES - The stress and fear from living in a violent environment can lead to sleep problems, including insomnia and nightmares.

CHRONIC HEALTH ISSUES - The constant stress can weaken a child's immune system, leading to chronic health problems such as headaches, stomach aches, and other illnesses.

Social and Developmental Impact

DEVELOPMENTAL DELAYS - Young children exposed to domestic violence may experience developmental delays in speech, motor skills, and cognitive functions.

DIFFICULTY FORMING RELATIONSHIPS - The trauma from domestic violence can make it difficult for children to form healthy relationships, leading to problems with peers and future romantic partners.

PERPETUATING THE CYCLE - Without intervention, children who grow up in violent homes are at a higher risk of becoming perpetrators or victims of domestic violence in their adult relationships.

Long-Term Consequences

MENTAL HEALTH DISORDERS - Long-term exposure to domestic violence increases the risk of developing mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD in adulthood.

CHRONIC PHYSICAL CONDITIONS - The stress and trauma from domestic violence can contribute to long-term health issues, including heart disease, hypertension, and other chronic conditions.

IMPACT OF FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS - The trauma from witnessing or experiencing domestic violence can affect a child's future relationships, leading to trust issues and difficulties in forming healthy, stable partnerships.

Support and Intervention

To mitigate the effects of domestic abuse, it's crucial to provide children with appropriate support and intervention:

COUNSELLING AND THERAPY - Professional counselling and therapy can help children process their experiences, develop coping mechanisms, and heal from trauma.

SAFE ENVIRONMENT - Ensuring children have a safe and stable environment is essential for their recovery and well-being.

SUPPORTIVE ADULTS - Having supportive and caring adults in their lives, such as family members, teachers, and mentors, can provide children with the stability and reassurance they need.

EDUCATION SUPPORT - Educators can play a crucial role in supporting children affected by domestic violence, providing academic support and a safe space.

Understanding and addressing the impact of domestic violence on children is vital to breaking the cycle of abuse and helping them lead healthy, fulfilling lives.

AUTHOR:- Iona has nearly 10 years of experience supporting nurseries and childminders in curriculum planning, leadership, and safeguarding. Her writing is informed by public information and sector insight, aiming to provide accessible, practical support for professionals working with children. She is part of the On the Button team, helping deliver Well-being, Safeguarding and Complaint Management Software that empowers practitioners to identify concerns early and act confidently.

On the Button provides innovative software tailored to the needs of the early years sector, with a strong focus on EYFS well-being and early years safeguarding. Our tools help senior practitioners to confidently track concerns, maintain robust records, and respond effectively — all while meeting statutory guidance. From early years complaint management to team-wide safeguarding alerts, our platform puts children's safety and emotional health first.